Mystery Person is a 30-45-minute activity where participants write down their strengths anonymously and then try to guess who possesses which strengths. Participants have an opportunity to share what they appreciate about themselves in a positive way and share with others. They also explore how their individual and collective strengths can help others.
Planning and Preparation: This 30-45-minute activity can be done with as many as 30 participants. You’ll need identical sheets of paper for each participant, pens or pencils, a container to hold the paper, and small prizes (optional) for people who correctly match strengths with participants. Works best in a setting with enough space for participants to form a circle where they can see and hear each other.
Developmental Relationship Element: Provide Support.
CASEL Competencies: listening, communication, self-awareness, social awareness, relationship skills.
Objective: Build and strengthen relationships among participants and between participants and leaders. Deepen understanding of Provide Support and also Express Care in Search Institute’s developmental relationships framework.
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